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Book David for your event or in-store appearance.
Book David for your event or in-store appearance.
Author • Speaker • Sexual Freedom Advocate
David Wichman is the award-winning author of Every Grain of Sand and The Four Rooms: An InQueery on Sexual Freedom and Well-being. As a Sexual Freedom Advocate, he brings candid, heartfelt, and deeply engaging conversations to bookstores, libraries, LGBTQ+ centers, retreats, and private gatherings.
Every event is tailored to the space and audience. From intimate readings to interactive workshops that invite reflection, dialogue, and connection.
Free Public Events
Free Public Events
(Available for bookstores, libraries, and community spaces — no cost to host)
Book Signing & Meet the Author
Guests meet David, get books signed, and share conversation.
Author Reading
Selected passages from David’s books with personal stories woven in for depth and humor.
Community Discussion + Q&A
A guided conversation around sexuality, identity, and belonging, followed by open audience questions.
Reading + Discussion Combo
A short reading followed by an audience-led discussion on themes from the books.
Ticketed Workshop Experiences
Ticketed Workshop Experiences
(90 minutes | Suggested donation: usually about $15-$20 per person)
Living in the Question
A practice-based workshop exploring how we judge our experiences in the world and how those judgments shape our beliefs, self-expression, and sexuality. Participants learn how shifting inner language can create a more empowering relationship with themselves and their sexual well-being.
Creating Connections
A hands-on experience in the art of speaking from the heart, setting aside grievances, and being truly present with those we love — and even strangers. This workshop explores how intentional, heartfelt language can reshape self-esteem and feelings of inadequacy, especially in the context of queer sexual well-being.
The Perfect Partner
An illuminating journey into what we seek in others and how it reflects our relationship with ourselves. This is a powerful workshop that I have done all over the world. Revealing parts of ourselves we may hold up for others but when seen through our own reflection we gain a useful tool we can carry for a lifetime. Participants leave with new insights into connection, desire, and possibility.
Guest Speaker
Whether addressing a conference hall, an intimate retreat, or a community gathering, these talks bring audiences on a journey through the layered experiences of queer identity and belonging. With agility to speak across subjects, from sexual freedom and body image to relationships, resilience, and the intersections of shame and joy. Each presentation weaves humor, vulnerability, and insight to meet audiences where they are. The goal is always the same: to create a space where people feel seen, affirmed, and connected, leaving with renewed courage to live fully.
Standard speaking fee is $750 plus travel and accommodations, with sliding scale options when available.
Specialized / Sex-Positive Space Offering
Specialized / Sex-Positive Space Offering
(Requires private/retreat or sex-positive venue, accommodations, travel stipend, and a $250+ honorarium, Rates are negotiable on a sliding scale based on community needs)
Cruising: The Archetypes
Designed for men and anyone who identifies within the male spectrum of the queer community. This workshop resonates most with those seeking greater comfort in sex-positive spaces and in dating or sexual encounters. We explore cruising archetypes, personalities, and our own inner landscapes — identifying which archetypes we lean into. This playful and reflective experience also addresses consent, desire, and self-awareness, and includes safe role-play and group discussion in a sex-positive, affirming environment.
Note: This workshop draws from David’s Cruising Archetypes Deck, a playful, provocative, and reflective exploration of the many internal landscapes and external behaviors that emerge in queer cruising spaces.
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